Cooperation Secret #1: Ignore Your Child's Emotional Needs At Your Own Peril

"Kids crave two things: attention, and control over their own lives. When these are unmet, chaos begins."

One of the biggest lessons I learned is that all kids (and all adults, for that matter) have instinctive needs for attention and control. Think of these needs as buckets that need filling. When these "need buckets" are empty, your kids will fight to fill them in ways that lead to tantrums, defiance, and power struggles.

But what if you could proactively fill those buckets, stopping these struggles before they even start?

By scheduling time each day to fill their "need buckets" with positive attention, while giving them small moments of control, you proactively give them what they need before they feel the need to act out. The result? More cooperation, less conflict, and a happier, stronger connection with your child.

"When kids feel connected, secure, and in control, they behave better. When they feel disconnected or powerless, they resist."

The best part - you only need 10 to 20 minutes a day of quality time with your child to make a big difference in their behavior and the strength of your connection. Even better, you don't even need to find extra time in your day for this. By making a few simple changes to your existing activities you can supercharge your existing routine into "bucket-filling time," automatically meeting your child's needs every day.

This secret is simple but transformative: Meet your child’s emotional needs first, and behavior improves naturally.

The fact is that small adjustment in your day can lead to massive improvements in how your child listens and respects your boundaries, making parenting so much more enjoyable and rewarding, while building a unbreakable connection with your child.